I'm sorry if you're all expecting a post of Fear. Being completely honest, I don't know what the next chapter should be like, so as soon as I have something interesting, I'll be sure to write the next chapter. Inshallah I will have it written by Friday. Sorry for taking long guys, but as every other blogger also says, I have school, and I have my social life, and really? I need my personal timing! I'm the type of person who needs to take time out of my everyday to analyze my actions and think of things in different perspectives, and even think about improving myself.
Anyways though, I'm a teenager and obviously, what crosses my mind everyday are the people around and the person that I am. Therefore, today I'm just writing out some thoughts about the society we live in.
How many of you think that looks play a very big role to how you're judged? You know, being judged doesn't mean that it's always a negative judgement. I think that if you're pretty or handsome, people seem to judge you positively, they think that you're a cool person who they'd want to befriend. But if people look at a girl who's chubby, or a guy with pimples lets say, automatically they just assume they are losers.
Has anyone every wondered why these judgements exist? There stereo-types?
I'll tell you why, and this really does cross my mind everyday so what I'm saying is something I truly believe and try to understand everyday.
We all watch movies, and series, and read books right? Right.
I think that the media, and the movies/series and so forth really affect our way of thinking, and the perspective we have on others.
I mean, come on. What movie doesn't portray the hot guy and the beautiful girl with the perfect body as the two lovers who end up getting married? Girls, that's why you find yourselves clinging on to guys who are good-looking, it's because you have it imprinted inside of you to think that this guy could turn out to be your fairy tale man. But really, have you taken the time to think about his personality? I'm not trying to say that looks don't matter, because it's stupid to say that I'm not going to look at someone before I think about falling for them or dating them (which I don't do) but you know what I mean, that's just human nature. But I'll tell you this, I won't look at a guy and think that just because he's ugly, I'm not going to consider him. I've actually met and fallen for guys who are completely the opposite of what the society portrays the perfect men to be like, but they are the perfect man on the inside! Getting to know someone's personality is essential, you may think someone isn't attractive, but I swear the personality can really change someone's level of attractiveness. Adding on, I've met some really HOT guys who are jerks, they are complete and utter jerks and they're selfish and only self-loving.
Adding on, I don't only mean to talk about falling for people for looks. But also looking at a girl and seeing that she's over-weight doesn't mean that she's automatically not a fun person to be around! I myself am fat. Trust me when I say, I'm EXTREMELY energetic next to LOTS of girls I know that are really skinny. You honestly never know why someone is over-weight, or have rough skin, or dress in a style that YOU don't like. I've met people and thought about their faces being burned or something and thought that made them ugly, but when I met them I'd find out they were in a car accident where one of their siblings died. <--- That was a personal encounter. Can you imagine that?
To be honest, I've been judgmental before, I'm not the perfect person, and I do judge sometimes, but when I realize what I'm doing, I restrain from it and I go and do whatever I can to go against it. I hate that I judge people sometimes, but I try stopping it. I don't think anyone can live life without judging, but I think that people could try and stop themselves, just try to go meet the people you're judging just to show YOURSELF how silly you're being.
Again, I'm sorry for putting all your hopes high into thinking this is a post but I just felt the need to put this out there!
Take care guys! :D
Anyways though, I'm a teenager and obviously, what crosses my mind everyday are the people around and the person that I am. Therefore, today I'm just writing out some thoughts about the society we live in.
How many of you think that looks play a very big role to how you're judged? You know, being judged doesn't mean that it's always a negative judgement. I think that if you're pretty or handsome, people seem to judge you positively, they think that you're a cool person who they'd want to befriend. But if people look at a girl who's chubby, or a guy with pimples lets say, automatically they just assume they are losers.
Has anyone every wondered why these judgements exist? There stereo-types?
I'll tell you why, and this really does cross my mind everyday so what I'm saying is something I truly believe and try to understand everyday.
We all watch movies, and series, and read books right? Right.
I think that the media, and the movies/series and so forth really affect our way of thinking, and the perspective we have on others.
I mean, come on. What movie doesn't portray the hot guy and the beautiful girl with the perfect body as the two lovers who end up getting married? Girls, that's why you find yourselves clinging on to guys who are good-looking, it's because you have it imprinted inside of you to think that this guy could turn out to be your fairy tale man. But really, have you taken the time to think about his personality? I'm not trying to say that looks don't matter, because it's stupid to say that I'm not going to look at someone before I think about falling for them or dating them (which I don't do) but you know what I mean, that's just human nature. But I'll tell you this, I won't look at a guy and think that just because he's ugly, I'm not going to consider him. I've actually met and fallen for guys who are completely the opposite of what the society portrays the perfect men to be like, but they are the perfect man on the inside! Getting to know someone's personality is essential, you may think someone isn't attractive, but I swear the personality can really change someone's level of attractiveness. Adding on, I've met some really HOT guys who are jerks, they are complete and utter jerks and they're selfish and only self-loving.
Adding on, I don't only mean to talk about falling for people for looks. But also looking at a girl and seeing that she's over-weight doesn't mean that she's automatically not a fun person to be around! I myself am fat. Trust me when I say, I'm EXTREMELY energetic next to LOTS of girls I know that are really skinny. You honestly never know why someone is over-weight, or have rough skin, or dress in a style that YOU don't like. I've met people and thought about their faces being burned or something and thought that made them ugly, but when I met them I'd find out they were in a car accident where one of their siblings died. <--- That was a personal encounter. Can you imagine that?
To be honest, I've been judgmental before, I'm not the perfect person, and I do judge sometimes, but when I realize what I'm doing, I restrain from it and I go and do whatever I can to go against it. I hate that I judge people sometimes, but I try stopping it. I don't think anyone can live life without judging, but I think that people could try and stop themselves, just try to go meet the people you're judging just to show YOURSELF how silly you're being.
Again, I'm sorry for putting all your hopes high into thinking this is a post but I just felt the need to put this out there!
Take care guys! :D
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